Yes, my dear. Breastfeeding can make you insanely hungry and you are not crazy. It's normal to feel like a bottomless pit while you are nursing. Hunger is a crucial message of your body. Life or death depend on it. And while you're breastfeeding, it's even so much more important, as the health and well-being of your precious baby depend on it too. Your body is very wise.
I remember how incredibly hungry I felt, when I was breastfeeding my first baby. The food just disappeared in me. It felt like there was an endless hole in me. I remember how good everything tasted and how well my body was utilizing every crumb of food. I was thinking at that time "what an amazing mechanism!". I was in awe of how incredibly capable the body is of healing the traces birthing a baby have left. I was watching my hair and my nails growing incredibly fast for a few months. And I was absolutely blown away by how my body could feed this human being. For the first few days, this baby was living of such little amount of colostrum; then thriving on breastmilk exclusively for 6 entire months! I felt like I had superpowers LOL.
It just makes sense that a women's body in postpartum and especially during breastfeeding has much higher nutritional needs, macronutrients (protein, carbs, and fat) and micronutrients (vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, etc.) She needs to account for blood loss and wound healing. So many changes are taking place in the body after birth. Hormones are changing. The uterus is shrinking back to is pre-pregnancy size. The breasts begin producing milk (whether the mother chooses to breastfeed or not). The connective tissue and the skin adapt to regain more elasticity. So even after pregnancy, nourishing yourself should remain a huge priority!
Women are usually being told that they need additionally 500 calories during breastfeeding. In fact, there is no one-size-fits all as with so many things. Every woman's needs differ and are dependent on her activity level, how much she's nursing, if she's pumping, etc. Research shows that the average cost to sustain lactation is actually upwards of 650 - 850 kcal/day! This is equivalent to running about 6 - 7 miles per day on top of your regular daily energy expenditure. Can you imagine that this would make you more hungry?
Also it's never as straight forward as 'calories-in-calories-out'. Please don't calories, especially while you're breastfeeding. Trust your body and trust that when nursing a baby there's something way more wondrous going on than our mind can grasp. Your body knows what it's doing and your baby also knows what it's doing. While it can be helpful to keep track of feeding your new baby approximately every 3 hours, you might be finding yourself feeding her way way more often, and then sometimes she might go without milk for a longer stretch. You can trust nature and the individuality of your baby and of your body. You are the best expert of yourself and of your baby.
As a woman living in this diet culture where a tiny percentage of a certain body type is being displayed as the 'norm', it's easy to feel guilty about being so ravenously hungry. Getting quickly back to your pre-pregnancy body and losing the 'baby weight' ASAP are praised as accomplishments. However, this is not necessarily healthy for your physical and mental body neither for your nursing baby. A breastfeeding mother actually has even higher nutrient requirements than a pregnant woman! Nature has it designed so that a baby receives the nutrients she needs for the most part, even if the nursing mother is getting depleted herself. Pregnant and breastfeeding women can easily have problems with their teeth and joints for example, if their diet doesn't contain enough nutrients. This can have long lasting effects and can be difficult to recover from if not taken care of through a nourishing postpartum diet.
During breastfeeding, you might need to eat more than you think. My midwife told me I should eat about every 2 hours. I couldn't believe it, but that's exactly what I needed for the first few weeks of breastfeeding. I remember that with my first child, before I could even feel hungry, I all of the sudden became unbearably cold and felt like physically and mentally breaking down. It took me a moment to realize and by the time I realized, it was usually too late for me to act on it. It was worse than being hangry. I just needed FOOD NOW. I remember that when I told that to my husband and he did something else for 5 minutes before warming up food for me, I had already lost it by then. I really was desperate for food and it took us both a few dramatic situations of me breaking down crying or becoming angry with him, till he realized how serious it was for me. It took us a while till we had figured out my eating rhythm which totally felt crazy. I needed food 2 - 3 times even in the middle of the night! And I don't just mean a cereal bar, I actually needed a small meal every time. And at the same time I was losing weight actually. That just blew our minds.
You might find yourself in the situation that you need to set yourself an alarm to be reminded to eat and even beforehand so that you actually have the food ready for when you need it. And even more than that, you need help. Hear me on this: YOU NEED HELP. It's nothing personal and it's completely normal. There's something really wrong with women and couples being without serious support of family and friends during this one of a kind time in their life. It took me reaching a real low point and drifting into postpartum depression to realize that I needed to reach out for help. Often it's just the basics: food and sleep... and maybe someone that can listen to you.
Unfortunately in today's culture, there's little regard for a mother in postpartum. Many traditional cultures have customary practices to nurture postpartum mothers. Even a mother needs mothering, then she take care of her baby even better. Often new mothers are subject to burnout and postpartum depression because of lack of support in today's society. They're made to believe that if they can't do it all on their own, they are a failure. Offering some comfort through providing nourishing food is one of the best gifts for a mother in postpartum.
So yes, please eat plenty, mama. Now it's not the time to get back into a shape you think you need to fit in. Eat nourishing foods, real foods - a balance of protein, complex carbs, and healthy fats. Have nourishing snacks handy, focus on simple, warming foods, drink enough water, and enjoy this time. Eat real foods as much as you can and try to avoid the junk. A nutrient rich diet of real foods is key in this time where your body is focused on healing and on growing another human being (just outside of your body). Of course it does matter what you eat, so the more support you can get with your postpartum nutrition, the better you will do. There is actually an important link between nutrients and postpartum depression. “Perinatal depression, also referred to as maternal depression, can occur during pregnancy or up to 1 year postpartum. It is considered the most common complication of pregnancy.”
“In all, fourteen studies found associations of perinatal depression with lower levels of folate, vitamin D, Fe, Se, Zn, and fats and fatty acids”
Furthermore, what you eat or don't eat affects what ends up in your breastmilk. If you eat foods that are difficult for your baby to digest, your baby will probably show signs of discomfort, have difficulty sleeping and possibly cry - which means that a stressed baby will affect your stress levels and amount of sleep you're getting. The nutrition in the first few months of life has a major influence on the establishment of the microbiome and a healthy microbiome will pay off for the rest of the life. "All disease begins in the gut" (Aristotle).
Stress and lack of good quality sleep are two of the biggest contributors to becoming overweight. So please don't worry so quickly about the amount you are eating in the months after your body birthed your precious baby and is in full-on healing and mothering mode. As long as you're eating nutrient dense, real foods that are suitable for you and your breastfed baby, you are gonna be fine. Your body is literally yelling this message at you: "Eat NOW and eat plenty" LOL. And yes, it's perfectly normal and adequate. If you want to do something good for your weight, relax, don't worry and try to get as much sleep as you can.
There isn't a whole lot of emphasis on postpartum nutrition compared to the flood of information on pregnancy nutrition. However, postpartum nutrition is just as important as you're still feeding your baby. The nutrients and building blocks for the breastmilk aren't coming out of nowhere, but they're coming from your body and from what you're putting in your body. It's a common misconception that a woman in postpartum can eat whatever she wants. Yes for sure, of course she can, but it's not necessarily in her best interest and I'm pretty positive that most mothers would want to eat what's also best for their nursing baby. Many babies suffer from so-called 'colic', which usually leads to sleepless nights and stressful days for the entire family. Women falling into postpartum depression is all too common. Much of this can be avoided by avoiding irritating foods and emphasizing nourishing foods suitable for you and your baby. It's not about eating 'perfectly' (whatever that even means...) and it's not about restricting yourself during the postpartum period, but it's about empowering yourself with knowledge about which foods serve you and your little one best and which foods deprive. The choice is still yours and it's only a real choice if you know what your options are and what they really mean.
Who is this for?
Exhausted moms who are either in the midst of postpartum and/ or have never really recovered from pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum.
Women who are currently pregnant and want to avoid the common pitfalls of postnatal depletion and baby colic.
Moms who want to have even more energy than they had before kids, so that they can conquer being ‘on-demand’ 24/7 - with ease.
Moms who want to make sure their baby is growing healthy & well and want to improve their baby’s digestion & nutrition which also means: less crying!!
Women who are ready for a healthy dose of self care so that they can be a ‘fun mom’ again.
Moms who don’t take “deal with it” for an answer.